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March 14, 2023March 14, 2023

Why Being Positive Is Important

Positivity is a powerful force that can improve our lives in countless ways. A positive mindset can help us become more productive, successful, and fulfilled. we will explore why we need to be positive and how we can cultivate positivity.

Firstly, being positive helps us maintain good mental health. Positive thinking can lead to a more optimistic outlook on life, which helps us cope with stress and adversity. Negative thoughts, on the other hand, can lead to feelings of hopelessness and depression. By focusing on positivity, we can build resilience and a more positive attitude.

Secondly, a positive attitude can improve our physical health. When we’re positive, our bodies release endorphins, which reduce stress levels and boost our immune system. In contrast, negative thoughts can increase stress hormone levels, which can have harmful effects on our physical health. Therefore, positivity not only makes us feel better mentally but also helps us maintain good physical health.

Thirdly, positivity can have a significant impact on our relationships. When we’re positive, we tend to be more approachable, and people are more likely to want to be around us. A positive attitude can also help us communicate more effectively with others and resolve conflicts more efficiently. By being positive, we can build stronger and more meaningful relationships

Lastly, it’s essential to surround ourselves with positive people. Spending time with positive and uplifting people can help us adopt their positive mindsets and attitudes. Conversely, spending time with negative people can bring us down and make it harder to maintain a positive mindset.

To cultivate positivity, we can practice gratitude by focusing on the things we’re grateful for, shifting our attention away from negative thoughts and toward the positive things in our lives. We can also engage in activities that make us happy, such as spending time with loved ones, exercising, or pursuing hobbies we enjoy.

Another way to cultivate positivity is to reframe negative thoughts. Instead of dwelling on the negative aspects of a situation, we can try to find the positive aspects and focus on them. For example, if we fail at something, we can focus on what we learned from the experience and how we can improve in the future.

In conclusion, being positive is not just a way of thinking; it’s a way of living that can significantly impact our lives. By focusing on positivity, we can improve our mental and physical health, build stronger relationships, and achieve our goals. By practicing gratitude, reframing negative thoughts, and surrounding ourselves with positive people, we can cultivate a positive mindset and live a happier, more fulfilling life.

March 11, 2023March 14, 2023

Be Faithful In A Relationship

Once upon a time, there was a man named John who was married to a woman named Mary. John and Mary had been together for many years and had built a happy life together. They had a beautiful home, successful careers, and a loving family. However, despite all of this, John began to feel restless and started to have thoughts of cheating on Mary.

At first, John tried to push these thoughts aside and ignore them. But as time went on, the temptation grew stronger and he found himself starting to act on his desires. He began going out with other women, lying to Mary about where he was going and who he was with. Eventually, Mary found out about John’s infidelity and was devastated.

The revelation of John’s affair tore their marriage apart. Mary felt betrayed and hurt, unable to trust her husband again. John realized too late that his actions had consequences, and that his momentary pleasure was not worth losing the person he loved most in the world.

In the end, John and Mary were able to work through their issues and rebuild their relationship, but it was not easy. John had to work hard to regain Mary’s trust and prove that he was committed to their marriage. Through this experience, John learned that being faithful to the person you love is incredibly important. Trust is the foundation of any successful relationship, and once it is broken, it can be very difficult to repair.

So, the story of John and Mary serves as a reminder that we need to be faithful in our relationships, not just because it is the right thing to do, but because it is essential for building a strong and healthy partnership.

June 15, 2021June 15, 2021

Why Trivial Things Are Important

The Zen master had a student who didn’t care about trivial things in life.

One day the master asked the student: Heavy rain or light rain, which one tends to wet people’s clothes? The student answered: of course the heavy rain. But the master said: The truth is the light rain get us wet easier The student asked: Heavy rain comes with a big amount of water, light rain barely has water, how light rain is the one that gets us wet easier?The master answered: because when heavy rain is dropping everyone knows, so who has the umbrella will put it on, and who doesn’t have any rain gear will go find a roof to avoid getting wet. But the light rain is hard to feel, or people feel ok with it, they don’t think this tiny water can get them wet ,but as time goes by, they will be wet without noticing.

Our speech and behavior, such as an expression or an action are like the drizzle. They look small, but if we don’t control them, without alertness and attention, they will hurt other people easily.

February 23, 2021February 23, 2021

The Easiest And Smartest Way To Deal With Life—Let It Be

Once upon a time, a master and his student lived in the temple. There was a summer which was hotter than others, the grass in the temple had withered.
The little monk said:”They look so bad! We need to plant some, otherwise the garden will be bald!”
The master waved his hand: “ we should wait until the weather gets cooler.”

During the Mid-Autumn Festival, Master bought a bag of grass seeds to ask the little monk to plant. But, the grass seeds scattered and fluttered, when the autumn wind blew. The little monk saw that then became worried and shouted:“ There is lot of seeds blew away!”
The master said:”It’s okay, most of them blow away because they are empty, it won’t be able to sprout anyway.”

After sowing the seeds, a few birds flew over to peck them.
“Mater! Help! The birds are eating the seeds.” The little monk jumped and shouted.
“It’s okay! We planted more seeds than we need.”

There was a shower in the middle of that night. The little monk ran to the master’s room:
“Master! the rain washed away lot of the seeds.”
” It’s ok! where they send to wherever they grow,” the master said, “let it be”

One week later, the grass seedlings grew out of the originally bare ground, also other corners that they did not plant. That surprised the little monk, all his worries finally ended.
The master nodded and smiled.

Let it be, do not worry, do not complain, do not rush, do not overdo, do not panic, do not force. Don’t be pessimistic, don’t be rigid, don’t get carried away. Just let it be.